For God to prompt me to write about this particular topic amazes me. Because of all the struggles I have against sin, to sin with my mouth is my greatest flaw. I will obey My Lord in writing about this, but I want you to know, I am really preaching to myself today on this one. If you benefit from what God is showing me, Praise God, but I certainly am humbled that He would even allow me to speak to this matter. What is the matter I speak of? Harming others with our words.
14 Remind them of these things, and solemnly charge them in the presence of God not to wrangle about words, which is useless and leads to the ruin of the hearers. (2 Timothy 2)
One of the most used Verses by God for my life has been, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)
Another is “19 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” (James 1)
I confess, I am a Hot-Head. I am passionate about almost everything. It makes for great writing and teaching, but it is a gift that comes at a price. Sometimes I am not quick to hear, but much to quick in “speaking my mind.” And if I am angry about something, I can become harsh at times. God is working on this with me almost daily. He has changed me so much over the years, but I have so much further to go. I bring this up to you because of the verse that He has placed on my heart to share about. It is the verse above from 2 Timothy: 14 Remind them of these things, and solemnly charge them in the presence of God not to wrangle about words, which is useless and leads to the ruin of the hearers.
The underlined portion here literally means, “Don’t argue, strive or wrangle about empty and trifling matters. It is of no use to anyone, it profits on one, and it leads to the ruin of the hearers. The Ruin Of the Hearers, do we really want to be right so desperately, that we are willing to “ruin” other people, just to prove our point, just to “be right?” Ruin, in this context, means in Greek: katastrophe. Do you see that? Catastrophe. Our senseless arguments, useless words, foolish disagreements can be devastating in the lives of others. They can be catastrophic, like a hurricane rushes into the life of another believer and brings destruction, pain, and tremendous damage. It can mean, in Greek, to overthrow another’s faith.
Believers in Christ, let us take heed to this warning from the Word of God and hold our tongues. I speak as loudly to myself, as to anyone else who may read this. Do we really want to ruin other people’s faith with our foolish, argumentative and insensitive words. I know of someone who was told by another Believer, “I have been hurt too much in the church, I can’t be your friend.” I sense, as I reach out to others sometimes, that they are shut down, robed in self-protection, because of all the wounds inflicted upon them by other Believers. This sin in rampant in The Body of Christ, and it is to our shame. We especially harm our Precious leaders in the Church with our insensitive criticisms.
I, personally, have been the “wounder” of others. God has shown me this, and whenever He has, I have sought forgiveness and restoration with that person. There are times, I am sure, that I don’t know I have hurt others, but whenever I do know…I go and make it right. Have you? Have you harmed another in the Body of Christ with your foolish words. Go to them. Make it right. Be a Restorer, not a Destroyer. Please know that I have been corrected by God on this matter many times. And it is only as a Humble, Repentant and Forgiven sinner, that I dare to speak on this matter. God prompted my heart to write about this today, and I have obeyed His call. Will you obey His call to seek reconciliation with those you have “ruined” with your Words? You will never regret it, and you just may restore the faith of a wounded brother/sister. Amen and Amen